It's showing, Daniella.

Your insecurities are showing, Daniella.

Your insecurities are showing, babe. Your fear of not being liked, and being ridiculed and judged are showing. Your fears of not fitting in, of being talked poorly about, of being fired and replaced, or the main character in negative conversation—is showing.

It’s pathetic, isn’t it? How easily we allow ourselves to fall victim to believing that people have so much time to themselves, that they spend the vast majority of it talking shit about us? Like seriously; how incredible rude of us it is, to believe that we deserve all their time, energy, and attention.

Honestly girl, are ya fu*ked?

People have better things to do with their time.

Say it with me: I am not consuming 24 hours of someones energy.

There are twenty-four hours in a day. Twenty-Freaking-Four. The majority of people spend 8 hours working, 8 hours sleeping and 1-2 hours commuting. Now, lets throw in some alone time and a quality workout/activity and we are left with 4 hours (since that alone took up 20ish hours)…And you know what they are probably NOT doing in those next four hours? They are not wasting their time and energy on YOU.

Hate to break it to you darling, but you’re not the epitome of someone else’s life.

1. Do people have the audacity to shit talk, judge, and ridicule? Oh hell yeah. Hell-to-the-freaking-yeah some people really truly have nothing better to do with a few spare moments of their time.
   

2. But is that really all people do in their days? No.

There is no pow-wow of the “I can not stand (this person)” chat group going on. There is no “she freaking sucks” party. It doesn’t exist, and if it does miraculously does exist—than you truly don’t need to be a part of that party. Mmmmmmkay sistafrand?

Those people don’t deserve you, and those parties seriously suck.

Why give a rats ass? Why care what others think? Why get yourself all worked upon over the simplest of things?

Feeling are just feelings, and thoughts are just thoughts.

Although they are powerful as hell, they can also often being powerfully inaccurate and condescending at best. Don’t allow your thoughts to change your feeling about yourself.

Just because you THINK someone is talking poorly about you, does not mean that you should FEEL like crap about yourself. Your thoughts should not make you feel inferior, sad, judged, isolated and unworthy—no, they should make you feel the radiance that you naturally are. Your impulsive, insecure and negative thoughts do not support a valid reason to be physically or emotionally affected. It’s just not worth it.

Someone recently said to me “You’ve got to love yourself enough to walk the fuck away, —even if its family. Fuck them.” And you know what, this is so incredibly true.

I have walked away from toxic boyfriend after boyfriend. I’ve left shitty cities, moved homes, bailed on jobs and lost a lost of friends. I know what walking away is, and I am not fearful of it. But not being liked? I thought it never used to bother me—until I recently noticed, it does.

Why do I take things so personally when I’m at work, on the internet, writing, or even communicating with those whom are “supposed to love me endlessly”? I really shouldn’t give a shit because she’s right—people suck.

I am a fine-as-hell (not physically, but birthrightedly—thats not a word) specimen of a human.

I am worth the fucking 2% that love me endlessly. I really am! I would rather have 2% absolutely adore me, than have 98% of people like me sometimes, talk shit about me other times, and try to avoid me in the best of times.

I really have no idea when my self-worth got so crappy, that I started being disliked.

I really don’t care. I don’t.

…But also, I do.

Babe, wake up. It’s okay. We all have insecurities and scars we don’t want to be seen. We all have things about us that having us feeling a bit flat, deflated and insecure. It’s normal. But living there—isn’t.

I don’t want you to fear striking out so bad, that you never play the game.

I don’t want you to fear judgement from others, that you never post the blog, go to the party, wear the dress or try to surf. I don’t want the fear of being made fun of, talked about poorly, laughed at or judged to stop you from following your dreams or trying new things. You can’t let those fears hold you back—because at the end of the day, fears are just voices in your head and limiting beliefs. Work past those fears and challenge them with the courage to do whatever you want to do, regardless of others.

Those who matter, don’t mind. And those who mind, don’t matter.

I love you,

xx

Dee