Intake is Individual
- Apr 17, 2020
- 6 min read
Insert Food Rant:
I have always loved cooking and baking. I love being creative for others in the kitchen - surprising people with big glorious meals. I love mixing together unexpected, yet surprisingly delicious, dishes!
I love food.
Who doesn't?
I love finding new foods that I enjoy.
I love cooking for others.
I love my staple foods (the ones I just truly can't live without).
And I shamelessly love snacking, too!
Seriously, satisfying tastebuds, satisfies my soul.
...& I fucking love food.
Creativity, is definitely my thing..
Yet many people, wouldn't expect that because I tend to eat the same foods majorly.
I often compare this to the person who has a realllllly neat and organized office, but the most filthy and unorganized bedroom. Y'know what I mean?
Its not because I'm on a strict diet or I am rigid with my nutrition (I am actually the most flexible and adaptive I have been in years) - it's just what I genuinely enjoy!
Back to the point:
I absolutely despise people judging others in general, but it especially grinds my gears - with food.
Food is a very controversial subject, with a lot of sensitivity included in the conversation.
Many people have food disorders, and disordered eating and thoughts around food - making the topic quite tricky to initiate. You can easily make someone feel like complete fucking shit, for how healthy or unhealthy they eat. Everything from portion sizes, to timing, to food choices and beyond, can really crush someone's confidence, ego and even knowledge.
(So watch not only what you say, but how you say it, too).
I'm the person who chooses to make healthy choices the majority of the time, and cheer you on as have cake with your coffee. I'll support anyone if they're genuinely happy and satisfied with their decisions.
I don't give a fuck if you're keto, low carbohydrate, high carbohydrate, a fast food feaster, a high protein lover, a vegan, IIFYM, a "clean eater", or whatever the fuck other "name" you'd like to insert here. I really don't give a shit.
You do you.
Do you enjoy the way you're eating?
Yes? K keep it up.
Do you hate the way you're eating?
Yes? K fucking make some changes.
If you enjoy it, cool. If you don't, make a change. End of story.
...K end that mini rant.
Do I necessarily need to agree with your fad diet choice? No.
But I equally DO NOT (nor will I) judge you, or belittle you, for your choice.
Nope. I won't.
Why? Because it's your life to live.
You will learn what works for you, and what doesn't, as time persists. You need to try things, in order to discover your unique truths, y'know?
&&& seriously,
I hate being judged, so why would I judge others?
Exactly...
Soooo seriously, I don't give a fuck.
I've tried every diet under the sun.
I've done it all in hopes of losing weight, shredding the fat, getting my old body back etc, etc.
I hear people raving and promoting their "fat loss diet" and all the fads that come along with it, recognizing sustainability versus are you fucked.diet.net.
Truthfully, I have my own personal view on nutrition and proper intake/personal successes that go beyond instagram posts and sleazy sales pitches.
I have my own way of eating - especially as someone whom has suffered an eating disorder.
I fucking hate being judged, and equally,
I hate hearing others judge people.
"You need to stop eating"
"You need to do this"
"You eat so much"
"You're going to have ____ again?"
Well, Susan, if you're like me and you've heard this before:
1. No, I (nor you) do not need to stop eating if that is what MY body requires.
2. I don't need to do anything I don't want to do.
3. I will eat what I want, when I want. This is my journey. This is my recovery. This is my relationship with food - not yours!
4. Yes I fucking am going to repeat my dinner, because I fucking enjoy it!
5. When you suffer an eating disorder, it takes your body time to accept the foods that you have restricted/binged on etc, again.
6. Each body has its own individual and unique needs. I can eat peanuts all day long, but maybe you're allergic. You love green peppers, I despise them. Get it?
7. Eating is individual. My needs are mine - yours vare yours.
8. I am allowed to like different foods than you.
9. I am allowed to eat more or less than you if that is what my intuition is stating.
10. You have nooooooo understanding of my physiological and psychological needs, so please don't commentate on a subjet you are unfamiliar with.
Cool? cool.
I eat a certain way, for me (and truly, I hope you do the same). I know the foods my body likes and dislikes, making my dietary intake include certain "staple meals" for not only tastes, but genuine health, too! I know the foods I favour, the ones I want to try and the ones I will continue to avoid for probably an eternity.
I am who I am. And I hope you are strong enough to say the same, too.
You don't need to eat the same way I do. You don't need to prioritize healthy food choices or intuitive, internal dialogue - nor share my goals. If it's not for you, it's not for you. Truthfully, I don't wan't you to completely copy me - I wan't you to discover your own wants and needs. I want you to discover your own version of healthy! We don't need to act, live or attain the same lifestyle. Your wants and desires are yours, and mine are - mine.
I won't judge you for how you eat, live or act, so don't judge me.
Its kind of fucked up:
Those who make healthy choices more frequently than not, are often judged and left feeling inadequate and quite insecure. We often feel as those we are doing something wrong, because we choose different foods rather than opt for pizza, or McDonald's... and honestly, that is just ass-fucking-backwards.
People who enjoy eating healthy, or eating a certain way, shouldn't be judged, just like you shouldn't.
It is no different than parenting. People have different parenting styles, habits, routines, etc. You may not agree with them, but do you belittle the people who tend to those? Probably not. So why judge food choices?
Keep your food commentary, parenting commentary, driving commentary etc, to yourself. You truly don't know anything about a person, so don't pretend to.
I know this blog is more of a rant, than anything.
But it's honestly necessary.
It has taken me years of battling an eating disorder, to get to this point.
The point of honesty, clarity and 0 fucks given.
SOOOOOOO
Let me re-iterate.
1. I choose healthy food because it makes me feel good.
2. I eat what my body requires. Not a lot, not a little - just right for me.
3. I will be in recovery for the rest of my life. No, I don't suffer from the same behaviours or mindset, but recovery is like an addiction of any kin - difficult. It takes persistent self-accountability and awareness to continue on the path of straight and narrow. It will always be a work in progress (because people will always fucking add in their commentary and bullshit posts and sleazy sales pitches).
4. I don't judge - don't judge me.
5. I believe everyone should have one big ass salad a day - because they're fucking delicious and underrated.
6. I'll do me, you do you. k?
Fighting an eating disorder isn't easy.
We need to mechanically eat. We need to overeat, under-eat and discover our hunger cues all over again. Ex-competitors need to discover the foods they actually like, versus what their coach has force fed them for years. We need to fuck up, make mistakes and learn until our bodies and brains connect and trust one another, again.
That is just the truth of it.
And that is what makes food such a controversial subject.
You don't know what someone has struggled with, nor do you know the stage their at in their recovery or health
.
The way you judge or speak to someone about food, dietary needs/desires/restrictions etc etc etc, could spiral them into relapse, depression, angst, binge eating episodes or massive restriction/bullimia behaviours.
Don't judge others on their food choices, instead - judge yourself. Look at your relationship with food, and make your own personal, necessary changes.
We are all one - and we should all be more respectful, conscious and courteous when it comes to others overall health and wellbeing.
I love you.
xo
dee
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