da' bestest (friend)

You've got a friend in me.

I've got a friend in you.

(Insert music note & obnoxious singing)

I have the worlds greatest best friend.

He is of opposite sex, smells phenomenal and (OMG), he's straight.

Woah!? People can actually have friends of the opposite sex? Why Yes. Yes jackass. They can.

My best friend is my biggest supporter and a superstar of a forgiver. He has seen me in my sheer mid panic attack, helped me cope after a Binge Episode, been there throughout weight gain, weight loss, different countries, fuck even different continents and so much more.

He supported me when I travelled, supported me when I lost my job, and supported me when I moved homes and started a wreath business.

He's been there, through it all.

...believe it or not. he still even checks in on me, every single day.

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After high school and college friendships ended as we all started g(r)o(w)ing other ways, I found it very difficult to build real-close-true and raw friendships. I mean, sure, people would come into my life, stay a while, and then leave. But it seemed like Peyton Sawyer (Ref: One Tree Hill) said it best, "People always leave".

I find this statement to be unbelievably true.

People do, always leave.

But the thing is, some come back, and some don't. That in which, is a decision of that specific person.

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It's taken me 26 years.

It's taken him, a heartbreaking divorce.

It's taken me, losing my shit.

It's taken him, storming out of buildings.

It's taken me, crying my eyes out.

It's taken him, being there to wipe my tears.

It's taken us, numerous laughs, giggles, heartaches, shopping trips, sarcastic commentary, workouts, puppy walks, and so much more to share.

It's taken us - being real, raw us - to find our best friend.

This stud of a character, has literally been here with me, through it all. And vice versa. We've really seen every side of each other. And that is something I deeply cherish.

That freedom of self. Freedom of expression. Freedom of speech.

It's a rare thing to find now-a-days. There is no hiding emotions, hiding thoughts and feelings. There is no secrecy or shit talking.

There is us, doing our best friend things.

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We have a little saying that goes

"no one loves me more than you"

...and that statement has proven true, time and time again.

The amount of genuine care, concern, and love we have for each other is really hostile, sarcastic, unique, quirky, hilarious, and special. It's rare as fuck. We have a thousand inside jokes, nicknames, forms of speech and raw truths between us.

It's great.

(because)

No-Fucking-Filters-Needed.

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He's farrrrrrr more patient than I am.

I am farrrrrr better at rationalizing than he is.

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I'm a talker.

He's a listener.

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He cant adult for shit.

I can't not take control.

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He's mellow and more passive.

I'm overly passionate and sensitive.

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I wanted a cat but couldn't get one.

He allowed me to talk him into getting a cat.

(I named her Trixie and he's secretly-not secretly super grateful for this).

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I think we all need to find that friend.

The friend that loves you unconditionally, no matter what. The friend that only wants the best for you. The friend that genuinely loves you, regardless of your shittiness at times. The friend that checks in on you, makes time for you, assists you with tasks and supports every crazy dream you've had (even if they don't understand it).

We all need that one special friend.

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Im lucky enough to have found my best friend.

And this is purely an appreciation blog about him.

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I hope you have a best friend, someone to turn to in dark and light times. And I hope you can share your appreciation with them, too.

Take the time out today, show them you care.

Check in on them often.

Love them boundlessly.

And laugh 500x more.

xo,

Dee

Ps:

To this friend,

Thanks for checking in on me, every-single-fucking-day.

I LAVO YOU.