Pr(I)or(I)t(I)es

"I'm too busy"

"I cant right now"

"No. Lets get together next week" "Gotta cancel"

"I have to go get groceries"

"I have to organize my notes"

"I have to wait for laundry"

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How many of you have heard these lame-ass excuses?

(insert: shameful hand raise)

How many of you have made these lame-ass excuses?

(insert: shameful hand raise)

Yeah, I'm raising my hand to both questions, as well.

And honestly, I loathe the fact that I've both made and heard these excuses.

So here we go. Let's talk about PRI-OR-IT-IES.

Do you see how many fucking times "I" is in that word.

Three times.

Three.

Because PRIORITIES are often only about YOU (aka the "I" in the word).

The only thing you think about, is YOU.

What YOU need to accomplish.

What YOU need to catch up on.

What YOUR to-do lists looks like.

Catch my drift?

What about those whom love you?

What about those whom are trying to get to known you?

That relationship you want?; well you wont get it if you don't prioritize your time and tasks, better.

I've been the bottom end of these excuses time and time again. And over the past year or so, I've consciously been choosing to prioritize my time/needs/tasks better.

Why?

Because your to-do lists doesn't take offence if it gets pushed back to being completed another day. However, your friend - they certainly take offence to it.

Hear me out here.

You're putting the work that you can do when the sun sets, later on in the evening, or a different day before your friend whom wants to take you to lunch, is visiting from out of town or hasn't seen you in quite some time?

You're going to buy the groceries that you can pick up on your way home, instead of meeting your upset mum for coffee?

You're going to stay inside the house all day, (pretending to be doing something productive - but not actually doing anything), instead of going for a walk with that friend you've bailed on numerous times?

I am all for rest, relaxation, "me time", and taking a break. I believe it is indefinitely healthy and quite often, not done enough.

However, I do not believe that the tasks that can easily be pushed back, postponed or done in an hour or so, are more important than another human being. Nope. No, I don't.

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"Tasks don't take offence to being pushed back, removed or delayed ...

but your relationships, do"

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It's true. Your to-do list doesn't know any better if its getting done in an hour, a day, or a week from now. Yes, it needs to be done.

But can something wait?

Can one of your "times" change?

Can you be there to meet a friend or family member, instead?

I truly just think far too often, we forget how important relationships are. At the end of the day, we all just want to be loved. We do. It's a universal desire. And at the end of the day, we are all making lame ass excuses, regressing that common desire of "love".

It costs $0.00 to make even an hour, to show someone you care about them. It takes an equal amount of money to reach out to a friend, check in on them, or give them a quick appreciation text.

Ultimately, we all want love and appreciation. We all want to be wanted. And that is what "making time" for someone, is - It is showing them that, they matter.

These people will not be here forever. They may move, they may get injured, heaven forbid-they pass away. Show them you care about them before those events happen. Show someone you care by sending a text, inviting them out, rearranging your schedule and following through with your plans, before life takes the pleasure of seeing someone, away. Do it. Make time for someone, because one day - they will stop being there for you to be able to make time for. These people will walk away due to the disrespect, if you don't learn to shut up & show up. Now.

End rant.

xo,

dee