DisCredit

Do you ever feel like people just completely dismiss all the things you've done, all the work and effort you have given? Its almost as like all those accomplishments don't matter, because they still aren't right or enough.

You try to share your overall day with a supposed friend, mentor, or family member, who just completely dismisses everything you've said - whether its good or bad, and has decided to hyper-focus on the fact that you're not worthy of commenting on your sore shoulder or need to sit down and just relax for a moment. Nope. Its completely dismissed because you aren't worthy of feeling the way you're feeling.

How about this for an opinion..?

Go. Fuck. Yourself.

You heard me. Take your opinions and shove them where the sun don't shine, because you do not know what another person is dealing with behind closed doors.

There are ebbs and flows to everything in life. Good comes with the bad, and vice versa. Some days are harder than others, and some days are literally rainbows, butterflies and insistent smiles.

Your job is your job; and it will have its challenges like anything.

Your body is your body; and they will require specific needs at specific times.

Your family is your family; and they will require your support, as well.

Your life if your life, and Lord knows - it is not always easy.

However, discrediting someone for the type of work they do, or how they are feeling after their days challenges, is indefinitely ignorant (as fuck).

Unless you've worked in an office, staring at computer screens all day, you'll never sympathize with the "headaches" and "back pain" that these patrons, suffer.

Until you've been a server, you will not sympathize with the physical and mental exhaustion of running around a restaurant, dealing with customer requests, rude commentary and shitty jokes.

Until you have experienced work as a contractor, builder, construction worker, etc, you will not see the weather conditions as a crucial impact on the workers well-being.

​Don't discredit and don't dismiss a persons feelings... You look like an asshole.

It doesn't matter what you do. Whether you're gearing up for a sporting or fitness competition, in financial crisis, working and slaving away, laid off, mourning the loss of a loved one, rehabbing an injury or stuck in mental illness - you can not automatically judge and discredit someone for their needs and feelings at that moment.

Why?

Let me say it again; You look like a fucking heartless, asshole.

We are all one. We are all struggling. No one has it all figured out.

We are all dodging curveballs, swerves, bumps and fires in order to provide for ourselves and our family.

The car thats racing down the street, running red lights that you're screaming at?

Her daughter is in the hospital due to a fatal car accident.

The woman screaming and removing her child from the store because the child is having a temper tantrum?

That woman has had it with the bad behaviour. This is the 4th temper tantrum of the day, and it came accompanied with kicking, punching and name calling (because yes, children can also be abusive and hurtful).

The little boy crying his eyes out?

To you (** general statement** - to a judgemental human being), someone simply "took his toy". However, this little guy worked hard - cutting the grass for his elderly neighbours in order to buy that toy, because his parents couldn't afford it.

Crisis, obstacles, and triumphs are different for all of us. We all come from different flocks of life, and we all deserve respect and an empathetic encounter.

So seriously.

Don't discredit someone because their path is different from yours. Don't discredit someone because you handle similar challenges in VERY different ways. Don't discredit someone that you know absolutely nothing about.

Why?

Because no one should want consciously want to be that asshole.